The L Word

Last night's episode of The L Word was very thought provoking for me. There was this whole dialogue that Bette had with her therapist after making love with Tina. She talked about how amazing it was and then looked down and said that it was sad as well. She went on to explain how Tina was different and that she could feel that Tina had been making love with another person and that she could feel that connection that Tina had with that other person. She said that Tina and she did things that they had never done before in bed.

What was thought provoking about this dialogue? I felt that it captured so much of the lesbian relationship that no one ever addresses. When most people think about lesbians and lesbian relationships, they don't think about the deep, almost mystical connection that two women have with one another. It's a connection that is so intense that you can actually "feel" the other person. Feel their love, feel their pain, feel their fear. When a woman makes love to another woman, it is as if you enter inside of them; physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You are a part of their experience in a way that is so amazing, it is as if you are floating in and out of an alternate reality.

When Bette spoke to her therapist about her experience with Tina, she was explaining about that experience, even if that wasn't the writer's intent. It made a connection in my brain and in my heart that unfolded an understanding that I didn't realize before. It was good stuff.